PSYCHOLOGY OF US

Shame hides. It’s as if it is ashamed of itself. Often we have lived with shame for so long, we are unaware that it is there, driving our beliefs, actions, and emotions. Shame maintains itself. When we feel ashamed, we are less likely to try to repair the damage, reconnect with the hurt party, or learn […]

Guilt feelings are common, healthy, and useful in short durations. However, when they linger passed their usefulness, guilt feelings can cause emotional distress and lead to more serious psychological issues. Monkey therapy combines Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Internal Family Systems, as well as neuroprocessing interventions that address all the aspects of overactive guilt: cognitions, emotional reactions, […]

The world’s most sensible person and the biggest idiot both stay within us. The worst part is, you can’t even tell who is who. -Chetan Bhagat

  To err is human; to admit it, superhuman.   – Doug Larson

Though guilt and shame are similar and often used interchangeably, recent neuroscience research suggests that they are very different emotional processes. They both underpin self-correction but they are made up of different brain chemistry, are based on different beliefs, and motivate different reactions (1). Guilt arises when we think that we have done damage to […]

Our inner critics can be erosive, exhausting, and even damaging to us. But they can be very effective at motivating us too. (Read more about this here). The following post will provide suggestions on how to add a more compassionate and constructive voice to your mix of inner critical voices.   Visualise your inner critic. […]